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The Complain-Less Challenge

Vanessa Strauss - Thursday, August 15, 2019

Communication

Mercury enters Leo

The communication planet, Mercury, has entered the creative astrological sign, Leo.

This astrological alignment emphasises the notion that the words you speak today, creates your experience of tomorrow.

We believe that the first step to leveraging this awareness is to stop saying what's generally negative, to obtain an overall more positive result. You can think of it like picking the low hanging fruit first.

Therefore, we invite you to participate in the 'Complain-less Challenge' for the next 16 days while Mercury completes it's passage through Leo. Mercury officially leaves Leo on the 30 August 2019. Hence, that is the last day of the challenge.

Now, the definition of what a complaint is can be ambiguous. So let us give you two explanations that you can choose to play by.  

The Challenge

#1 Level - Novice

Tim Ferriss offers a well thought out explanation of a complaint when he set upon this challenge. A complaint is whenever you describe an event or person negatively without indicating the next steps to fix the problem (see his post here).

This definition also includes gossipping, which can be considered as idle talk or rumour about the personal or private affairs of others.

He uses the utterance of 4-letter-words and common profanities to indicate to himself that he has complained, and therefore, has failed the challenge.

#2 Level - Master

Let's expand this definition of complaining for anyone who is feeling confident that they mostly speak at the novice level already.

A complaint also includes any judgement.

Here is an example:

"He was so rude at the meeting. He should have allowed time for the remaining participants to speak."

Here, we can see that the judgement is considering this person as rude. This expression is an opinion, not a fact, and is a subtle form of complaining. Another person in the meeting may be thankful for the person taking up all the time because they found the information profoundly relevant.

In Non-Violent Communication (NVC), a judgement is considered a tragic expression of an unmet need.

In the example above, the non-complaining version of the expression could have been "I felt disappointment that I didn't hear the other participants speak. I really wanted to know what the lady's opinion was sitting at the end of the panel."

Here, the person is expressing their disappointment (fact) that they didn't get to hear a specific person's opinion (fact).

Learning to communicate in this manner is the basis of NVC. If you would like further examples and nuances, there is an NVC rabbit hole waiting for your exploration. (here's a starting point)

So what happens if you stuff up and utter a complaint?

Well, from the perspective of the 'Complain-less challenge', nothing happens.

This is an exercise in self-awareness and becoming more conscious of our habitual communications.


Remember, these utterances may be a thread that leads you to become aware of larger, more creative, thought and speech complexes. The ones that really do create the experience of tomorrow.

 

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With love in our hearts,

 

Dr Vanessa Strauss / Adi Shakti Kaur

A registered Doctor of Chinese Medicine, Evolutionary Astrologer, and Senior Kundalini Yoga teacher and trainer.  Vanessa teaches Kundalini Yoga classes, facilitates workshops, and leads monthly astrology circles in Australia.  Her teachings are based on the current astrological themes and are intended to help participants heal and connect with a more authentic part of themselves.  She also offers private consultations in person and via Skype.  You can get in touch with her via email

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